When people talk to me about Marisa, many of them speak of heaven.
I have consciously not said much about my views on heaven for various reasons but I listen curiously about what others have to say about it.
I had thought I had heard all the versions out there until today.
I work for an organization, Bethesda, that supports adults with special needs.
Today I encountered an old friend who has lived at Bethesda for a long time. We have known each other for more than 1.5 decades.
He came up to me today.
He said, “Mendelt, is your wife dead?”
I said, “Yes, Marisa is dead”.
He asked if She was in heaven.
I said, “Yes, I believe She is in heaven”.
He said, “You know who else is in heaven with your wife?”
—-I thought, here comes a sad moment for me. Here comes a story of a loved one, maybe his mom or dad, aunt, uncle or maybe even a brother or sister. Here comes one of those holy moments where two bereaved people look to each other for a piece of healing. I braced myself, looked him in the eye and was ready to console him.
I said, “tell me, who is in heaven with Marisa”.
He looked at me, smiled and said, “Elvis”.

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February 11, 2009 at 9:11 pm
Christine
and they’re both up there rocking together!
February 11, 2009 at 9:46 pm
susanne
That is such a great moment – Marisa would have laughed at that response.
Thanks for sharing that, Mendelt, it has been a long day over here and I really needed to laugh.
Blessings and Courage for the journey,
Susanne
February 11, 2009 at 10:07 pm
christina torch
that is just amazing.
February 12, 2009 at 1:43 pm
Margaret (Van der Veen) Van der Meulen
Just when you think you are going to be really sad….someone makes you smile…priceless. Thanks for sharing that.
February 12, 2009 at 4:53 pm
Barbara Ball
That comment made my day! Thanks for sharing!
February 13, 2009 at 12:28 pm
Mark & Laura Bassie
This one brought a smile to my face and a much needed laugh.
You really never know . . . .
So, did Marisa have a favourite Elvis tune?
February 13, 2009 at 1:16 pm
Kim
Oh, I can just see Marisa cracking up over that one. Her laugh was the most conagious I have ever known. Believe me, I would always get in trouble in class because of her.. and I was the one who had “needs improvement” for “exercising self control”.
February 14, 2009 at 5:06 pm
Linda
Oh, that made me laugh aloud! I hope it gave you a smile or laugh, too.
The family in heaven includes many of whom I would claim as mine, but I’ve never counted Elvis in my list! What a refreshing point of view.
February 14, 2009 at 8:54 pm
Tine Buma
Mendelt,
I’m catching up on the blog! I was trying to read ahead of the words…to get to that wise response from your old resident friend at Bethesda!
Love those kinds of unexpected and original verbal returns!
Thanks for sharing. A hearty guffaw!
Tine
February 18, 2009 at 2:31 pm
Frances
I have my own vision about what I think heaven is like, but it does not include Marisa wearing blue suede shoes.
February 27, 2009 at 9:10 pm
Tara Marie
I just loved this entry. I found your blog through a dear friend’s blog that is now being written by her sister. My love goes out to you and I am going to spend some time over the next few days reading and getting to know Marissa.
Peace and love, Tara Marie, a dear friend of Annette’s