Jacoba and I were sitting on the swings outside today.  She said to me,

“When Mommy was alive you called her M’ris and when she died you call her Marisa.”

…it makes total sense.  She is right.  I almost always shortened Marisa’s name when I called Her.  But now, when I talk about Marisa I use Her full name because I am not speaking to Her, but about Her.

What a beautiful 4 year old mind. 

It just goes to show that they pick up different things that we do.  It is ‘normal’ for her that her mom died.  But it isn’t ‘normal’ for Jacoba that I call Marisa by a ‘different’ name now.

A beautiful mind that matches her beautiful face.