And the redefining goes for each of our children.

And I guess that is what Jacoba is doing when she shuts down in the mall, when she tells people that there is an extra seat, when she gets tired and calls out “mommy”, when she has nightmares and cries out Marisa’s name.

She is redefining herself in her new world. 

I guess that is what Zion is doing when a random kid falls down on the playground and he runs over to pick the kid up, when he goes to the bathroom to get a bandage for Zekijah’s scrape, when he runs to me every morning for a hug.

He is redefining himself in his new world.